7 September 2010 30 Comments

Sunday Email #44

I started writing the “Sunday Emails” in 2006 and today, I would like to share with you “Sunday Email #3″ that was published back on SUNDAY, OCTOBER 15th, 2006 – from my heart. It was originally posted on my old blog and it tells the real story of my life when I first started internet marketing. If you like to see the previous comments, click here. I’m copying as it is below so please excuse the grammar mistakes to remain it original form:

Sunday Email – Part 3

I can still remember my dad said…

“Why don’t he gets a real job?”

He was referring to me at that time. It was
year 2003 when I was “self-employed” — doing
my own stuff which my dad doesn’t really
have a clue what EXACTLY I’m doing.

“Do you know what he’s doing?” Asked
my dad to my mum.

Mum doesn’t have much clue as well but
she believes in me. More of that later on.

You see, I can’t blame Dad to think like that
at all. Dad’s been driving taxi for over
10 years now.

He’s a hard-working blue collar worker – Wakes
up in the morning, have a good breakfast (Butter
and bread) at home and off he goes driving to
bring back the money for the family. Every
single day he works… 7 days a week. There’s
no such thing as an off day unless the family
is having some sort of outing or, if he’s sick.
And if he felt sick, he really does.

Driving taxi may looks easy to most people. I
mean, how tough could be to stay focus on the
road with all of the senses God given?

But have you try driving for 8 hours a day…
365 days — multiply that by 10 years?

And you don’t get to meet nice passengers
everyday, my friend.

I respect my Dad. I just don’t know how
to tell him that I love him.

Guess you can tell… Dad’s income is
hard-earned money. Man, the sacrifices he
have done for the family, I don’t think words
alone can describe them.

Each trip, he’ll earn a few bucks. He’ll have
to collect those to reach a few thousands a
month so that he can provide his family a
better life, so to speak. And Dad’s a
frugal person too. Not because he is a
cheapskate, but because money was not easily
accumulated by him.

I mean, if you start to earn a few dollars
each time you completed a task, I bet that
you’ll see money differently. I know I would.

Like any parents, I think Dad’s ideal hope
was that his children will have good education
and end up with a good job. I mean, career.

I get good education at school, no doubt about
that. But unfortunately, I wasn’t cut to be
one of those smart kids.

Smart kids in school will give a kind of look …
You know, the look that goes,

“Look at that bummer. Wonder what he’s gonna
end up doing after the school days.”

I flunked.

I was not accepted to go to any public Universities
to further my education because of my low grades.
Dreams shattered into pieces.

The next choice was private college.

But if you were me… will you take your Dad’s
hard-earned money gained from driving in the hot sun
to pay the darn college fee?

That’s tough.

Mum wanted to give me her life saving if I need
money to go for college. She’s a housewife and
doesn’t have an income.

Forget it. That’s even worse.

So I have to work – But the problem is, I can’t
get a good job because I’m not qualifed, academically.

You see, in order for me to be qualified for most
of the jobs that I want, I wouldn’t be able to
pass the first stage because most companies will
look at the damn paper first to evaluate me. No
diploma or degree. Not even a certificate.
Better luck next time, bucko.

You can tell that getting a job wasn’t easy then.

So I end up as a salesperson. I get paid when I sell.

That’s it.

The harder I sell, the more money I’ll make.

I ended up becoming a very HARDWORKING person
for money. Well, that’s good and bad depending on
which angle you’re looking at.

That’s my JOB.

To cut the story short, I was in the sales line
for almost two years before I stepped out to do my
own stuff. The products I’ve sold ranges from
door-to-door greeting cards to electronic components
for corporate clients.

Then one fine day, I felt like quiting my job.

I’ve had it.

It’ll take at least “10 Sunday Emails” to write how
in the world I end up doing my own stuff.

In a nutshell, I started doing my own entrepreneurial
stuff, alone.

The only thing backing me up that time was… me.

Don’t laugh when I say this — I just have this strong
desire to achieve more in life. If you read this post
completely, I’ll tell you the reason, ok? So stay
with me.

Imagine, being alone and running like a madman
to make money. You know, when you’re over optimistic,
it’s just ain’t ‘healthy’. Don’t you feel that the
enviroment and community somehow act to ‘help’ you
to become normal and not to be successful? I know
it’s strange but try talking to your friends that
you want to make money from the internet soon.

Mum and Dad weren’t all excited. I mean, how could
they be?

My relationship with Dad wasn’t all colorful for
a long period of time since the day I quited my
“good” job. I think, he was dissapointed and
confused of how stupid I was. And I can see his
point now, but not at that time. I was slightly
dissapointed with him for not standing on my side.

Even my ex-girlfriend’s parents were surprised
at that time. They think their daughter’s future
is going to be a deep struggle coz I don’t have a job
anymore. Most of my friends (Except for the super
close ones) start to avoid me because they don’t
see any benefits mixing with a ‘loser’.

I don’t have much support after that.

And they are all RIGHT.

I messed up.

Should have stick with a good job.

And all of these having nothing to do with
Internet businesses yet. I was just trying to do
my own stuff like multi-level marketing business,
printing business, marketing seminars, etc.

Like usual, things are good in the beginning
and they started to fell off apart as time goes by
without proper planning.

That is when I turned to the internet to sort out
my financial disaster.

Gosh.. Just by remembering myself in that shoe
still gives me the chill. No money left in the
bank and full of credit card debts. I can tell you
that it wasn’t fun. Don’t try this at home.

Lucky for me, Mum was there to support me
financially. I don’t know whether it’s a mother’s
instinct or she simply believes in me.

What the heck. Took it to pay off my debts first.

The sad part was… I can’t share my problem
with most people because they’ll go,

“I told you so.”

As my money keep draining out each day, I spent
more time to understand how to make money online.

You’ll think I lied if I told you what kind of
sacrifices I’ve done to learn how to make money
online.

At that time, internet broadband wasn’t even
existed yet in the area where I live.

I have rented an office at that time.

So after work (After 6.30PM), I’ll go back home
to have a quick dinner and a nice shower. That
would be about 9.00 PM. Then I’ll rushed back
to the office to learn all I can about internet
marketing and start building it. I can still remember
I was the only person in the whole office block.
Not in the office, but the WHOLE OFFICE BLOCK.

Can’t be surprised because I’ll normally be
up until 2.00 AM in the morning.

Until to a stage, the security guard of the office
block knows me personally and we became friends.

And kiss goodbye to weekends. My new best pal
for the weekends is non other than Mr. Computer.

I’ve even sneak to do my internet stuff when
working in the daytime.

And did you think I made money after all
of these sacrifices?

Nope.

I don’t get it. All of these courses that I
was reading at that time told me it was easy.

Now I can fairly assumed that these
marketers probably have never made a single
red cent online before other than selling
courses to innocent people like me.

I can’t still remember I bought a “Blaster” that
time. The membership claimed that it’ll send
my advertising message to 100,000 subscribers
from a click of a button. Wait. I think it
was 1,000,000. Geez. I can’t remember but I’m
pretty happy at 100,000 that time.

When I sleep that night after hitting the “Send”
button, I lay my eyes shut with a pleasant smile
on my face … expecting to make money by
tomorrow morning.

That was a nice feeling. The hope. Wow.

Ha. You know happen, don’t you?

NOT EVEN ONE VISITOR from that promotion.

Dammit. Why did they lie to me????? I’ve paid
my $29.95 and the salesletter says it’ll send out
to 100,000 people.

I then realized that, I was not alone. Thousands
of people paid for a ‘hope’ that can never be
achieved.

Until today, I still don’t get it why people are
still selling this kind of ‘software’ when
they know it’s not working? I guess money is
a good reason to do almost anything online for
some marketers. It’s nothing wrong … but for
God’s sake, sell something that works!

I’m just banging my head on the wall.

Failure after failure, but I would not give up.
It’s so close that I can ‘taste’ it, only in my
dream of course.

It took me at least 6 months to get my first sale.

It was tiring.

But I strived with a reason. Call it whatever you
want — an ambition, a goal, etc.

During that time, no one knows the deep s#@t I’m
in except for my mum. She’s always there for me,
morally or financially. Sometimes, she’ll be worried
about me because she’s afraid that I don’t know
what to do with my life. I tried to explain to
her but how in the world can I expect her to know
what’s an opt-in list. Thanks for hanging there
for me, Mum. You’re the best.

Dad?

It’s sad but I can’t tell Dad. Dad will always
have the thought…

“See? I told you so but you wouldn’t listen.”

Until today, Dad doesn’t really know what I do
but he’s cool now because I’ve brought in results
that he can see. House. Car. Watch. You know.

The struggle I’ve been through was not easy but
I can tell you this — it’s WORTH IT.

Am I successful? Compared to a few years
ago, yeah. Everyday, I can go to sleep with my
eyes shut with a smile on my face for a better
tomorrow. But other thant that, I think I’m
just scratching the surface only.

There are many messages I want to pass to you
from my sharing today.

You’ll read all kind of salesletters online selling to
you a “hope”. Marketers do that all of the time and I
highly recommend you to do that as well when you’re
selling something online one day (or now).

*Marketing tip: Sell the hope, not the product.

But if you’re not ready to be in a difficult situation,
don’t bother to buy it. Please don’t for the benefits
of you and the marketers.

I like to think all marketers are good people – Selling
to you products so that you can improve yourself.

But hey, you gotta think for yourself that it’s gonna
required your time and effort TO DO IT.

It’s going to require you to SACRIFICE. What are
the sacrifices? I don’t know! It could be cutting down on
your TV time everyday or lose playing with your kids.

I hate it when I need to throw in the cold water to
you like this. It just doesn’t adds up more points
for you to like me. But if I want to help you, I have
no choice do it. I’m sorry. I don’t want to sell you a
hope that cannot be achieved but hope that can come true.

If a marketer tells you to buy his course without
doing anything and you’ll make money online, I think
he’s a liar.

Lucky for him, he’ll probably get away with that
because that’s what all people want to hear. Just
like the “Blaster” I’ve bought.

So this leads me the next million-dollar question…

“What is the thing that will moves you to do this?”

A purpose.

You might know that I’ve coached hundreds of
students to make money online by now.

A student attended my internet marketing workshop
with a passion.

So I asked him, “What’s your purpose to learn
how to make money online?”

He told me that…

His mum is getting older every single day. He loves
her a lot. I can see that in his eyes when he was
sharing with me. But with his current job, there’s
no way he can be at home with her while making
money. I think he wanted to build an internet business
because of a very powerful purpose – To stay at
home with his mum and having the ability to decide
what time he’ll work. Today, he’s making money
online fulltime and quited his job.

Is that strong?

It’s MOVING.

Another story was a little bit interesting…

Let’s call this guy, A. A has a rich dad. But he’s
sick and tired of being treaten like someone who
gained respect because of his dad’s wealth.

Look, having a rich dad is a blessing. But, if
everyone is treating you nicely because of your
dad, that sucks.

There’s only one purpose why A wants to
start an online business –

And I doubt it’s because he needs money.

He has a strong purpose which is to proof to
the world that HE CHAN DO IT. He doesn’t need
his dad’s money or influence to be a successful
person. And guess what… he made money online
too. The last time I heard, he got 3 niches on
the internet now and the best part is, I think
he’s only 23 years old this year.

A, if you’re reading this, I want to tell you
that I’m very impressed with your attitude to
be on your own and proud of you.

For me, I have a purpose too. A desire to go
all out and create my own wealth.

I want to be rich, yada, yada, yada. You know,
the normal reasons why everyone in the world
is putting effort to achieve what they want.

But I think, what really DRIVES me was
“revenge”. Ok, revenge is too harsh to be used.

It’s a desire that I want to proof to those who looked
down on me that I’m not capable of becoming
successfully. I know, it sounds ‘evil’. But I don’t
think it is if you’re seeing it from my point of view.

You see, during the schooling days, I just hate
the feeling I get from the teachers and the
other students that I’ll be a loser when I grow up.

Hate it. It’s hurtful.

Heck, I can still remember one of the school teachers
doesn’t wants to answer my question.

She thinks it’s useless to answer me anyway coz
I would never catch it. And all I want was to catch
up with the smarter kids. Hey, I want to be smart too.

Then, I wanted to show my other friends who have
rich parents that I can be as good as they are.

Or should I say, the same good life that they’re
experiencing. If I don’t have rich parents, I’ll
create my own wealth. I’ll still go vacation at
places they went, drink the wine they can affort, etc.

How about Dad?

You got it. I want to proof to my Dad that I was
doing the ‘right’ thing all of this while.

There are just so many other people that I want
to proof. But I think, the most important person that
I want to proof to was… ME.

I want to proof to myself that despite my background,
I CHAN still do it.

I think that purpose is strong enough to move me
to quit my job that time.

“So, what’s your purpose?”

You have to ask yourself why you’re doing this –
trying to make money online. Trust me, without
a good motivator like a purpose, you can’t go far.

Each time you get kick dirt in your face, just
remember your purpose. Then, you’ll ‘fight’ back
the whatever obtactles that comes along your way.

I think a stronger message I want to pass to you is..

“YOU NEED TO HAVE A COMPELLING REASON TO BE
SUCCESSFUL ONLINE.”

There. You have it.

Is there any other lessons I’ve missed out?

I think there’s another one.

The internet is not bias. It doesn’t care how old
you are, where you from, what’s your academic education
level, who you mix with, what’s your race, etc. Anyone
can make money online. So I think you should take
advantage of this if you think that you have a
“weakness” in the offline world now.

I’ve spent more than an hour to write this and the
last thing I want to do is to throw a sales pitch for
you to buy my product. All I want is that you get the
lessons out of this post. But if you think you need
a short cut to online success without going through
what I’ve experienced, email to me for a product
recommendation.

Lastly, if you have any comment and feedback, feel
free to leave one at this end of this post. Or, if i’s
private, shoot it to me at support@youchandoit.com
with Subject: Sunday Email – Part III.

You “Chan” Do It!

-Patric Chan
www.YouChanDoIt.com

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SPECIAL NOTE: The Chan Do Internet Success System is now launched.  This home course reveals the same system and strategies how I became who I am today and has helped ordinary people to start their internet businesses and quit their jobs.

Comments

30 Responses to “Sunday Email #44”

  1. Susan 7 September 2010 at 2:22 AM #

    Wow, excellent article. Thank you.

    Again, WOW – what a great article.

  2. John Harricharan 7 September 2010 at 3:01 AM #

    I love the article, Patric. Thanks for sharing it with us.

    John

  3. admin 7 September 2010 at 3:16 AM #

    Hi John,

    THANK YOU for reading and loving it. It’s my pleasure to share.

    Take care,

    Patric

  4. Eric 7 September 2010 at 3:50 AM #

    I seldom read long post, but when I started reading yours I was thinking…oh my…we’re on the same ocean except that you’re on your Yatch already while I’m still paddling my little wooden boat.

  5. AM Zainal 7 September 2010 at 6:22 AM #

    Real guts from real people. Thanks for sharing your insight. Rough, realistic and readiness…

  6. Free Ads 7 September 2010 at 7:23 AM #

    The article provokes lots of thought in me.
    Was I being raised by a poor dad and rich dad?
    Which is better, book smart versus street smart?
    The basic principle in life, is to get educated.
    Once a foundation is laid, go beyond that.
    We can not be successful if we just live a mediocre life.
    Patric exemplifies many of such good qualities of successful leadership.
    Thanks for the inspiring article.

    Best wishes,
    Michelle J.

  7. George Tee 7 September 2010 at 8:51 AM #

    Patric, it’s a real great article here hearing your own success story. And yes, it’s all about how strong your purpose is to make money online.

    As I look back at my friends who were doing internet marketing, those who are really successful are those who really have a strong desire to succeed.

    I think it’s the passion that keeps us going on despite “failing” many times – the process of learning what’s working and what’s not.

    And stories like what Patric shares keep us inspired and moving on for greater heights. Thanks Patric!

    George

  8. Daniel 7 September 2010 at 10:26 AM #

    Dear Patric,
    Thanks for sharing & it provide a powerful inside knowledge for newbies because we are constanly receiving a lot of stuffs from the internent marketing gurus. We really like what you are doing especially it is not easy to do business out there if you don’t have good influence & capital to invest.

  9. rusliesophian 7 September 2010 at 12:27 PM #

    Hi Patric,
    It’s great that you managed to overcome all the hard struggle in order to achieve success in the online business.

  10. Ming Jong - CPA Instruments Bonus 7 September 2010 at 6:42 PM #

    Great Stuff Patric,

    That really test your persistence, determination and strong urge to succeed!

    Well done.

    Cheers,
    Ming Jong

  11. cascd 7 September 2010 at 8:02 PM #

    This is masterpiece! thank you for sharing. its really encouraging.

  12. K.K.JESWANI 8 September 2010 at 1:20 AM #

    Hi Patric.

    It is great that in-spite of so many problems you have managed to achieve the success. In fact my story and your story are similar the only difference is your dad did not like the idea of your doing anything on internet in my case my son who is 27 years old does not like an idea of my doing any thing on internet. He says if that was possible than every body having a computer in India would be a millionaire if not a billionaire. You would recollect I had sent you an E mail telling you that I will write you a separate letter for getting your help therefore I will send you a separate letter shortly when you can suggest me a way for me to do something worth while on internet as I am confused with overload of information not knowing how to start something.
    Thanks and regards. K.K.JESWANI

  13. Nabil 15 September 2010 at 12:27 AM #

    Love this article.Inspiring.

  14. Prem Prakash 15 September 2010 at 8:57 PM #

    Hi Patric,
    It’s great that you managed to overcome all the hard struggle in order to achieve success in the online business but what the business is actually? What i have to do to become like you a successful one on the Internet?

  15. Prem Prakash 15 September 2010 at 8:59 PM #

    But remember i am not going to spend even a single penny unless I get profited by your system please.

  16. Lagofaatasi Faaola, Jr. 17 September 2010 at 1:48 PM #

    hi Patric,

    i have always admired perseverance and tenacity from people who never let defeat or criticism be an obstacle to their dreams. Patric, you are one of the very few people i can honestly say has inspired me to “move ahead” with my dreams. i have a confession to make. i have deleted a lot of your emails soliciting my registration in your internet business. like everyone else in here, i too am a skeptic when it comes to online solicitation. i am a newbie in this internet marketing business and i am trying like hell to feel my way around (now i know what a blind person must’ve gone through).
    but as tough and technical as it may, like you were in the beginning of your trials, i too have that drive and desire to be financially independent. my father shared the same “blue-collar, hard working, disciplined” mantra, as many of those from their generation did. unfortunately, i did not achieve my goal of proving to him that i can work just as hard (if not harder) and smarter on the online business arena. he died before i could do it. but despite this personal tragedy, i have decided that i am going to prove to myself that i can achieve my dreams and be successful (if not for my dad, then at least for me).
    Patric, for some strange reason an “urge” moved me to read this particular email from you. i do not know why, but i am so glad i did. i feel honesty, transparency and a feeling of understanding from you. i don’t know you personally but that is just how i feel at the moment. very strange.
    anyways, i would like to request a personal audience with you to learn all i can about this internet marketing and how i can achieve my goal (as many in here are doing as well).
    i am looking forward to reading your other emails and learning all i can from you.
    thank you for sharing your life’s trials and tribulations with the rest of us in here. personally, it has given me another power surge to move forward.

    live long and prosper my friend,
    Lagofaatasi Faaola, Jr.

  17. lorinda 19 September 2010 at 9:39 AM #

    HI REALLY ENJOYED YOUR STORY VERY INSPIRING i HAVE BEEN BUYING SO MUCH PRODUCTS ON LINE i SHOULD JUST CONCENTRATE ON MY WEBSITE THAT I FIRST PURCHASED IN MARCH 2010 BUT FOR SOME REASON I KEEP GETTING SIDE TRACKED. GO CHAN CAN DO IT LOVE IT LOVE IT

  18. Steve 3 October 2010 at 1:51 AM #

    Hello Patric,

    A great telling of a difficult, but, uplifting journey. To often, the journals of a persons life , unlike the one that you have shared here, leave out the depth of emotions felt and the shared sacrifices that are made. For me, ultimately,this is a reminder that we almost never complete these types of journeys… alone.

    Great Journal and thanks for sharing.

  19. anastasia 27 October 2010 at 7:45 PM #

    Hi Patric,
    I am sure all the trials and tribulations that you have gone through must have made you a very determined person.Hopefully, I can have that believe in myself to succeed.

  20. ahhuann 17 February 2011 at 6:33 PM #

    really touching reading this article. thanks for the sharing.

    *o ya, can recommend some good programs to sell/ affiliate with? just started an affiliate marketing blog, don’t want to sell those “useless & liar blaster” program.

    thanks!

  21. Jeannie Lucek 9 March 2011 at 7:14 AM #

    Its like you read my mind! You appear to know so much about this, like you wrote the book in it or something. I think that you can do with some pics to drive the message home a bit, but instead of that, this is wonderful blog. An excellent read. I will definitely be back.

  22. Sajid 11 July 2011 at 10:11 PM #

    Hi Patric, Thanks for sharing your personall life with us it is really inspiring.

  23. Rosita Luhn 7 August 2011 at 9:54 PM #

    Is it possible to e-mail myself with a few pointers about how precisely you made this web site website seem like this , I’d be appreciative!

  24. Abdullah 21 October 2011 at 11:49 AM #

    FINALLY! Someone who is able to share with us the truth on one’s internet marketing journey and not some “hype” and or “get-rich-quick” scheme which is flooding both online and offline, these days.

    I truly appreciate your sincere sharing on this post dated since 2006 as it serves as a motivation for budding Internet Marketers who are beginning their journey online.

    Thanks Patric!

  25. Jamaliah 29 December 2011 at 1:59 PM #

    I’m proud of you…Chan, we all have purpose and HOPE….let’s giving hope to everyone out there…that it’s never to late to start. We just need to learn from the Mentor, get knowlegde and follow the system and most important Action…..to reach Dream. You inspired me! Lastly….Tq for sharing and it’s a good salesletter….pz email me anything: liamaria.jay@gmail.com coz I really need your help for the same reason.

    thx

    lia
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  26. jiheccc 29 December 2011 at 7:39 PM #

    interesting……. dont take a hope as a your dreams. Somebody can give your chance but nobody can built your victory.My father is taxi driver too. i have a good job as a teacher. I’m proud to my father to give me all out for my education. i’m make decision to involve bisnes online for seek side income. forget for all my grammar.

  27. Mohd B. Mertajam 29 December 2011 at 9:57 PM #

    Yeah..I can say all giving you a positive feedback here and me too..your story really touching..because I’m facing it now and you make me realise that IM is not easy as most Marketer always says, it demand “purpose” and as you said Patric …”a compelling reason”, yeap I got what you mean..I’m really damm need money and wish to quit my day job and doing internet marketing for a living. Internet marketing is full of hope..me too has bought that hope from many marketer even though “make money with a push of a button” at early stage of jumping in internet marketing. Thank for sharing hope to be your student.

  28. Nurul 1 January 2012 at 4:47 PM #

    hi Patric,

    as always, very motivating to read your post.
    I thank God for giving me exposure into the Internet Marketing World.

    Meeting you, Stuart and many other internet marketers at the SMART seminar in year 2008 was the beginning of serious commitment to break free from the corporate world.

    Finally, in April 2010, I have managed to break free from 9-5 life..

    i now work anytime I want, on my bed at home or by the pool or at friend’s house.

    Online business definitely give so much freedom.
    Life as an entrepreneur is exciting every day.

    I love my life right now!
    2011 was great, so looking forward to another successful year.

    Happy New Year to you and your family!
    Happy New Year to all budding Internet Marketers out there.
    You’ll achieve your freedom, as long as your desire is strong enough.

    -nurul-
    http://ThriftHolidays.Blogspot.com

  29. Gerald 27 April 2012 at 4:37 PM #

    I don’t have much to say Patric but I’m happy to know you as a Friend and I’m glad that you change your life and your family too TO YOUR SUCESS

    Regards

  30. Qin Dong 28 December 2012 at 12:01 AM #

    your friend from China:p


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